My interest in the topic of life change involves a lifetime of lived experiences, extensive study, and a wide range of determined efforts to overcome the lingering effects of an abusive childhood. My plan started with my decision as a seven-year-old child to escape as soon as I was old enough to take care of myself. By the time I reached the age of twelve, I had added one more decision to my escape plan. I resolved that I would never treat anyone the way I was treated every day of my childhood.
When I finally escaped to the university on the day after my eighteenth birthday, I tried out majors in English and biology before earning my undergraduate degree in psychology. My ongoing interest in health led me to consider attending medical school. And so, I went back to school to study for an undergraduate degree in chemistry to fulfill admission science requirements. After that, I changed direction again when I decided to study for graduate degrees in theology and biblical studies instead of medicine.
All of my efforts to learn what I believed I needed to learn, all of my direction changes about what I would do with my life, and all of the time and money I spent seeking professional help to overcome the lasting effects of an abusive childhood, were rooted in the same desire: I wanted to change my life for the better.
Throughout the years before and after my escape, I asked myself age-appropriate versions of questions similar to the ones I asked you:
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods will help me live a happier, more successful, more fulfilling life?
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods will teach me how I can have, be, and do what I truly desire?
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods will teach me how to accomplish my goals and achieve my dreams?
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods have already helped me achieve what I wanted?
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods haven't helped me?
- What beliefs, strategies, and methods have made my life worse?